Last night was the last open house before school starts.  All of my children have been excited to find out which teachers they have, to see schedules, and to reunite friendships that took a break with the summer.  It was a big night for us all with lots of high hopes and great expectations for a great school year.

As I walked the hallways, I began to see something that troubled my heart and thoughts.  In fact, what I saw made me very sad.  It bothered me all last night and continues to haunt my thoughts today.  As I turned each corner of the school, I was concerned about the amount of hurt and disappointment that was walking the halls with me.  I saw numerous families that live in brokenness brought on by divorce.  My life is not different – and it really bothered me last night.  I came home and wrote in my journal about all of the hurts I was personally experiencing then moved on to ask the question, “I wonder how my kids were feeling?”

A friend of mine had  a baby that died as a newborn about 20 years ago.  I recall talking with him on the phone about it.  At the time, I was living over 800 miles away.  But in the moment I had a tremendous case of insensitivity.  I told him that one day God would use this tragedy to help someone else.  True… but oh how I wish I could take those words back – timing is everything!

I’ve been told that on numerous occassions that I will be able to help others going through divorce or dealing with the effects of divorce.  I understand the encouragement that has been extended with those words… (Sometimes God’s people should be seen and not heard)  The problem I see with this sort of counsel is that my kids are put on the altar as a sacrifice to help someone else.  I don’t really believe that is God’s plan.  Yet, I can see how God can use my life today to help others.

Within me is a well full of sorrow and pain brought on by divorce.  I’m thankful God has filled it with His love, grace, and compassion for others who have or will walk my same road.  How I wish I could counsel couple to work it out no matter what… I also know that in some cases working it out is not an option.

So, as we begin another school year filled with so much excitement – let’s not forget those children who are dealing with the disappointments in life brought on by selfish parents.  The losers are the children.  Those of us who can help need to stand in the gap for them.

What can you do? Become a mentor.  Volunteer at your church with children or youth.  Begin praying daily for specific children.  Select a school and prayer walk each week for the children and for the teachers.  There are many options to get involved.  Seek God as to how you can join Him in healing hearts… Start today!